Monday, August 29, 2016

5 Ways Coffee & Pie Can Help You Through Your Break Up

So you are single now! Welcome to the club. I'm not gonna lie to you and tell you it is easy. It isn't, but I have a ton of Tinder advice I can give! But mostly...just don't! LOL

What truly helped me and inspired me throughout my divorce process was pie and coffee. I found comfort in a place all my own for the very first time. A place that didn't have unwanted memories attached. A place I could grow my sense of self, my tummy and my creativity!

Here are five things that you can discover to begin finding the new you and the beginning of the healing process.
1. Comfort Food. I don't know about you but I love food! Especially desserts and coffee {have you seen my #100cupsofcoffee? More to come on that!}! Pie to be specific. I found the cozy, adorable and chic cafe and pie shop Republic Of Pie in North Hollywood, California right before I began my divorce process. Having a little bit of a treat each week gave me something to look forward to, made me happy and warmed my soul. Plus it was the beginnings of a place I could call my own.
2. A sense of community. Republic of Pie or any coffee shop that calls to you, will have a sense of community. The same people come on a their own schedule, you begin to become a regular and known by name by the baristas. I was no different. Everyone has their pie, coffee and Mac Laptops out. We all look the same, writing away, but we are all different and it is fun to be able to recognize the regulars and become one yourself. It can give you a new place of belonging in a time of insecurity and self doubt. Don't be afraid to reach out and make new friends. You are going to need them.
3. Time to contemplate. Writing and quite contemplation in a busy place can be very rewarding and healing. Forcing yourself to get out there again, especially alone can be tough. Writing and thinking became my therapy. A time to reflect on the past, learn from it and move forward. This is a needed step in healing and becoming a stronger you.
4. A place to meet friends. Gather them together! A solid squad can lift you up, listen and tell you the tough truths. Real friends tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear! Weekly or bi-monthly meetings will help keep you grounded. The people who love you most will help you through anything and everything!
5. A project to call your own. This might be my favorite part of the horrible divorce process.
As soon as I left my husband, I got my wild Tinder-ing out of the way, but that lead to a massive stroke of creative inspiration! My 100 Cups Of Coffee Instagram series began last July, ended a few months later and then evolved into a memoir, which I am working hard on to this day! I've never felt more creative or inspired in all of my life. Because now I'm doing it for me!

Though my big break up happened over a year ago and a few mini break ups since then, I always held on to the light at the end of the tunnel. I stuck close to my friends and finally discovered the city I lived in and fell in love with it!
Then when I had decided to stop looking for him, he found me. It has been almost nine months now with Ocean Eyes. Every day, every text, every adventure I have felt more happy than I ever thought I could have. Here's to a bright future. Good luck to you and the adventures that are to come!

1 comment:

  1. Mariah KaercherAugust 29, 2016

    This is such an awesome post. I have always loved coffee and nothing relaxes me more than reading a book with a cup of coffee on a Saturday morning.

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